Why women date other marrieds?
Chat about a loaded topic that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on from the beginning of the world. Extramarital affairs can be filled with problems, cause misery, and other harms. Also you must wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty thing, money, age dissimilarity, religious background, shame, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married women.
Why do people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking an affair. I think mainly though it is just the human condition, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Biologically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and exciting, and sex makes us escape the world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people are able to switch the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos humanity has erected against extra-marital affairs. For lots of individuals the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their relatives, but the public also. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, maybe some of us are. Sex is terribly good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not harm your family or anyone else? You would need to lessen the threat you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest cluster, gigantic truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they feel comfy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to consider. Your finances are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to live as a family besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An extramarital affair from time to time solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Ignoring, sadly this is a ordinary groung I fear. One or the other, frequently the guy is sexually neglecting his lady for a multitude of reasons. As a male I really appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them accessible to us males of romance, making them “lonely wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but malevolent.
Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, maybe caring is gone, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply grown distantly, our relulas interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is conflicting of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they search for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run off, for economic gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.